Manifesting The Life You’re Dying To Live
I've been thinking a lot lately about fear. I've heard it said over and over again that you get what you focus on - that you manifest what you spend time thinking about. That's interesting.
And for some reason sounds too magical for me to wrap my logical mind around.
When I sit and think about what I want - what would really make me happy - I see that a lot of that stuff - the happy stuff is not in my life. I mean of course I want more than I have now - why isn't it here? How hard do I have to focus?
But then again - what do I want? Have I really put time in to think about or focus on what it is that I really want? Like the detailed version - more than just the idea of happiness and money?
No. Not really.
What it is that would actually bring me joy?
When I think about big happy dreams they seem to have a way of ushering in fear. Every 5 minutes I put into thinking/focusing on my dreams seems to send 2 hours or 2 days of fear my way. Fear that if I really tried to live into my dream - that somehow I would fail and everyone would laugh at me. Which is super funny to think that everyone I know is really waiting and watching for me to fuck up so they can point there fingers and laugh. Sounds a bit self centered:)
So let's look at this.
5 minutes focusing on dreams that might make me happy < 2 hours spiraling in fear of said dream not working out.
Where has my focus really been? It doesn't take too many smarts to figure out that my attention and my focus is resting on the fear.
Then we go back to the idea we started with - “You get whatever you focus on”.
Let's say that you're in a job you don't want and you wish you could do the things that would make you happy and passionate. OR you're in a marriage you don't want to be in and you wish you could escape and find true love.
So you begin to dream:
"What if I did what I really wanted to do?"
"What if I left this job/marriage and set off to find what would bring me love and happiness."
Then the 5 minutes of positivity comes to a screeching halt and is replaced by:
“Well, what if you tried and it didn't work out?"
And now fear takes its toll. And you start focusing on all of the things that could go wrong.
"If I failed I wouldn't get to do what I really wanted."
"If I leave this marriage then I might end up alone."
"If I try something wild then I might find out that I can't handle it."
Cool. Those are legit fears. That's ok. BUT the thing we don't see is that by not taking off on our dreams, by not giving them the focus/attention that they deserve - if we open our eyes for a minute - we see that we have already manifested and currently are living out the reality of our biggest fears.
By not moving forward and focusing on positive dream scenarios we are and have already created, and chosen to live into, the life that we are so fucking afraid of having to live.
To be clearer, you are already in the job you hate and you are already alone in the marriage you won’t leave.
Sounds harsh doesn't it? You could take it that way - OR you could realize in this moment that you are capable of handling and living through your worst fear (because you already are) - so why not go out and give your dreams a try? Worst thing that happens is you end up back in the life that you are already living.
I believe in you friends. You are a dreamer and you have the power to create the life you want to live. You've already proven that you get what you focus on. So change your focus. Spend hours in positive dreaming - add details to your painting and take a chance to see what the fuck may happen.
Hoping for the best in your life.
David - A Life Coach, A Singer Songwriter, A Light Reflector, A Dreamworker, An awesome father, An amazing husband, And whatever the fuck I set my mind to next.